Jillian Chesley's Education Consulting approach is geared toward young adults/adolescents with the focus being that it isn't helpful to force a young person to get help: All a concerned family member can do is offer the help, manage themselves emotionally, and create boundaries that will lead the young adult in a different direction. Ironically, the fear family members' feel for the young adult/adolescent is often perceived by them as pressure. There is no blame or fault - its what families have been doing for thousands of years.

It wasn't until the 1950's that scholars began to understand the role of the family in mental illness, substance dependence, and emotional functioning. Sociologists/psychiatrists began to observe that the families' dynamic plays a role in the development and maintenance of a family member's problems.

It is not about blame/fault-its about learning and understanding

Every mother and father wants the best for their children and is always doing as much as they can for them with what they know and the resources they have. However without any sort of education on relationships and emotions, the best most families can do is survive. In all families, there is at least one person who is suffering emotionally or physically. This looks different in each family, however its the same emotional process. Understanding the family dynamics is the only way a family can truly help a family member who is struggling with mental illness/substance abuse.

Why many programs don't work

Humans are social beings. At a subconscious level, we are very aware and susceptible to the emotional process of those we are closest to. When a family member is taken out of the home and placed in an environment where there is less emotional pull, their symptoms improve, however, when they are put back in their family, if the dynamics haven't changed, they often revert back to their old behaviors. When the family has an understanding of this process and can provide a safe place for the troubled family member to keep their new behaviors, they are much more successful.

Parallel Coaching

The most efficient and cost-effective way for a family to help a member with mental illness/substance abuse is to receive an education about family dynamics while their young adult/adolescent is attending an educational school. Through reading and coaching sessions, the family can be assured that they are doing all they can for their young adult/adolescent. Jillian Chesley specializes in both appropriate placement schools and coaching family members to help their struggling young adult/adolescent.

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